How does the military expect marriages to work when something happens the couple can't speak to each other?

My husband was sent to the barracks and he hasnt spoken to me in 5 days. I'm so mad about everything. I get madder as time passes and he doesn't speak to me. Do they really expect me to cool down in oreder to let us speak again because that is not going to happen.I'm very mad about everything that has happened. So can they really not let us speak? also there isn't a MPO which is a militarys no contacting order. I'm very confused on how they can sit there and say fix your marriage but dont talk.